Sunday, January 31, 2010

Best Advice Yet

From a good friend of Charles':

"Best advice for you guys and all new parents: You can do it. Take every challenge as it comes. If you try to anticipate every single detail, you'll just get overwhelmed. Just look around at all the complete idiots in the world who have raised kids; we can do it as well as they can, right?

Everything will be fine, just take it one thing at a time and don't worry about "everything" that goes into it. Pretty soon they are a year old, then five, then ten. Enjoy them while they're little. Ten years from now you won't remember if the house was a mess, the yard needed to be raked, or any of the other little stresses that we worry about. You will remember the precious time you spent with the babies, so spend your time focusing on that and forget about the dishes in the sink."

Well said....

How am I feeling, part 2

I got my first cold in pregnancy Friday evening. It really is no different than a cold not pregnant but it still sucks. Headache, stuffy head, stuffy nose, runny nose, cough, sneezing, and sore throat is coming on.
I just hope it passes and doesn't turn into a sinus infection because the only thing that works for me with sinus infections is antibiotics. And I am not sure if I can take those pregnant.
Tis life!

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

The Truth About Eating

I know I said in an earlier post that I am eating whatever I want and that is not entirely true. I am eating whenver I am hungry, and I do eat until I am full, which is oftentimes more than I would eat normally.

But for the first four months of pregnancy I was on a pretty strict diet by my accupuncturist. I was very limited in my diet taking out some of my most favorite foods: white bread or high gluten products, pork, fish, any candy or sweets including cake or donughts, ice cream, peanut butter, spinach, and even my favorite tea, fresh hibiscus flower. I had limits on the amount of milk products I could have (cheese, yogurt, ice cream, sour cream, and milk), and all my fresh produce needed to be organic.

In addition, I was limited to only eating room temperature or warmer foods. I could not have any cold foods. Things that were cooked had to be prepared on the stove or in the oven; I could not use the microwave.

I think the hardest foods for me to eliminate were salads, pork and chocolate. I didn't realize how much I actually liked salads because vegetables have always been more of a chore for me to eat. I love them, but I just never think of cooking them! But when you have to have all your food cooked, you realize how much a salad fits into a regular palate. They are light, and yet filling, crunchy and fresh, tastes and textures collide. Salads can be sweet or sour, spicy or mild, garden or just plain ol' caesar!

MAN I LOVE PORK! I love ham, bacon, pork chops, etc. and pork seems to be in everything. Breakfast burritos, quiches, every Chinese food dish you want (egg rolls, pot stickers, pork fried rice!) Eliminating pork was much harder than I realized it would be.

And who can deny a pregnant woman chocolate! I remember at 16 weeks begging my accupuncturist to allow me to have one little piece. Finally he caved and he said, "Don't tell anyone I said you could!"

Now that I am further along, I still try to avoid pork as much as I can as well as fish. But mostly I avoid meats that have nitrates in them like hot dogs, sausages, bacon, lunch meats, etc. I still don't go nuts on cold foods (I never was a huge ice cream craver), but I will allow myself some yogurt and cold milk on my cereal. Most of my fruit I have been keeping at room temperature and the other stuff is generally cooked or reheated.

The chocolate is hard. I admit that I have eaten more of that than I should. I try not to feel so guilty when I see pregnant friends still drinking their latte every morning, realizing that the amount of caffiene in that cup is probably more than I will get from chocolate, but still, any little bit can affect a growing fetus.

The white bread products are slowly making their way back in, mostly in the form of pizza. I love pizza. They do have pizza now that has gluten free dough and it is good! I will try anything! And I generally still eat wheat bread for toast or sprouted wheat bread. Mostly the gluten free stuff was for people who are gluten intolerant and I have been tested for that and I am not (thank goodness!)

I have always loved fruit and that has been my life saver. I have literally eaten three bags of cuties myself in the past month. That is about 2-4 cuties (baby oranges) a day. And I'll sprinkle an apple or pear in there somewhere. I just had a canteloupe today and I love honeydew melon too. Grapes are awesome when they are in season (too expensive now), and I'll drink hot water with lemon and honey in the morning (thanks to a recommendation by my friend Erica). They give me that sweet edge I need/crave, and fit into my diet.

Salads made their way back in early on in the process. Who can truly say that a salad is bad for pregnant people? Avoid any undercooked egg products and you are good to go!

Mostly, I am super lucky to have an extremely creative chef for a husband. He makes the most amazingmeals that fit into my diet. The most memorable meals were:

1) brussel sprouts with grilled chicken
2) rice flour noodle pasta with a marzcapone and lemon sauce, mixed with broccolini and turkey bacon
3) grilled vegetable sandwiches (red bell pepper, portabello mushrooms, zucchini)

The most important thing I realized is that you can have really great food no matter your limitations just as long as you don't limit your choices within those limitations. And you use a little creativity.

To eating! Yum!

Funny things people say...

I thought for sure that with the new triumphs in infertility, that the idea of twins would no longer be a novel idea. I was wrong! People are fascinated! And in their curiosity they sometimes ask weird questions.

The most common:

1) Do twins run in your family?
** My response is usually, "No, I am just lucky!"

The most puzzling question:

2) Did you plan to have twins?
** I got this question twice in one day! It was so weird. And both times, I responded with "I don't think anybody PLANS to have twins." I mean, you can plan to become pregnant, but I don't think it is possible to "aim" for twins? Am I missing something?

More to come I am sure!

How am I feeling?

A lot of people have been so cool in asking how am I feeling. And I think the curiosity of how does a person feel (is it different) when they are carrying twins? Well, I have never been pregnant with a singleton so I just know how I felt before I was pregnant and how I feel now.

And generally the news is good! I really can't complain. I get to eat whatever I want :-) and people are extra nice in helping me pick up things when I drop them! It's been good!

But to those of you who are super curious about my aches and pains, here is a list of some of my ailments:

1) I am BIG around the middle! That's a no brainer, but it changes the little things in life.
***For one, it can make getting in and out of the car more difficult. But I just turn differently, then use the little handle above the car door (who knew that thing could come in handy?).
***The other thing is that I grow out of my clothes like a newborn baby will. I went to the thrift store and bought some maternity clothes two weeks before Christmas. I bought them with extra space knowing that I would continue to grow. Well, today I put one of my favorite shirts on and it doesn't cover the bottom of my tummy any more. Tis life.
***Stretching the belly is a natural part of this process and my skin itches a couple of nights a week. I put on this cream that my friend gave me after every shower and it seems to keep the skin moist and not too dry. But I also itch on the back of my calves! It is sooooo weird! I don't know why I itch there!
***Although the belly stretching is natural, I never really thought about the belly button. It is super strange to see it slowly grow from an inny to an outie. I had a lady at work tell me that when it popped out all the way, it was like a timer. It means "your done!" I thought that was hilarious!

2) The biggest ailment I have been having is sciatica. If I stand too long, or sit too long, especially in one position, I begin to get the striking nerve pain down my right leg. Once I walk for a bit I can walk it off. But it is suprisingly alarming every time it happens and definitely lessons my leg strength.

3) The most surprising ailment has been ACNE! I have pimples where I never had pimples before: on my back, on my neck, under my chin, and all around my mouth. I have a new facial washing regimen now that I never had to worry about before: soap first to wash off makeup, then blemish control apricot scrub, then zit cream to sleep with at night. Even all that does not control all the zits and I still have to use cover up when I go to work. I have been spoiled (and blessed) with good skin all my life and I never really knew I had it so good.

4) Tiredness is a classic pregnancy symptom and I have had plenty of that. But I have a great husband and wonderful friends who encourage me to take it easy. And I have been working over the past three years on listening to them. I know that seems super silly to say, but believe me, I never listened before! I was such a workaholic! But now if I feel tired, I just say to my students, "hey I need to sit for a second!" You would be surprised how helpful they are! They want to get my books for me, turn the lights on and off, and do some of the things I used to run around crazy doing. Now I just let them do it and it makes us both happy.

5) Swollen hands and feet. This has been coming off and on. It is only annoying because some of my shoes don't fit right and I can't wear my wedding rings. I have had a ring stuck on my finger before. When I turned 21 Charles took me to Las Vegas. He had given me a simple silver ring for Valentine's Day that I was wearing as we trapsed down the strip in 100 degree weather. The blood pooled in my hands and the ring got stuck. We tried everything: cold water, ice, butter, vaseline, lotion, cream, sleeping on it. Nothing worked. Finally, Charles and I took the bus to the nearest fire station and they cut the thing off. Those ring cutters burn like hell! I still have the ring with the slice in the back for good memories. I did not want to have to cut off my wedding ring so I am not taking chances.

Well, I hope this updates you without being a boring list of complaints!

Monday, January 18, 2010

How far along am I? Good Question...

I am currently in my 26th week, or 6 1/2 months. Really weeks works better because a normal pregnancy is 40 weeks. My doctor thinks I won't make it past 37 with twins. I have heard many stories of them coming early, anytime after 32 weeks. So I am ready for anything!

Here are some pictures of my progress:


 Almost 9 weeks











14 weeks










21 weeks

Belly = 42" round



 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
25 weeks
Belly = 45" round

Sunday, January 17, 2010

The whys about the name choices

Lilly is Charles' paternal grandmother and Novella is my paternal grandmother.

Annabelle is Charles' mother's name (she passed away in 2003).

Abigail was just a name Charles picked out...
Amelia...Charles has always liked and it is in my mom's side of the family (but I tend to think it is too similar to my own name)...

Auden was a name I picked out....

Mix and match how you will...I can't guarantte that any of them is what we'll end up with in the end. It is just a fun thing for people to do!!

Fraternal and Identical

Many people ask me how I know the girls are fraternal (instead of identical). I always have told them that we have seen on the sonogram that there are two separate amniotic sacs, two umbilical cords, and two placentas. The gender of the babies was sort of irrelevant (they would be fraternal because of the aforementioned items).

However, in my research online, it seems that identical twins only share the same sac 1/3 of the time. So it is possible for them to be identical. The only way to know for sure is when they are born, to look at them, and if they look similar, to do a cheek swab test.

It doesn't really matter to me either way. I have a feeling they are fraternal, but I am not worried about it.

A funny note:
I saw on a twin blog that sometimes when parents of twins are out and about, they get a lot of attention from others. Many people want to know about the twins (are they identical, how was the birth, is it hard, etc.). One couple was walking their fraternal babies (girl and boy) when a stranger stopped them. They asked if the babies were identical and the mother responded that "no, they were fraternal because one was a boy and one was a girl." The stranger insisted that it was possible to have identical twins of the opposite sex despite the mother's explanation. The father's comeback was "in order for them to be identical, they have to be the same above AND below the waist." And then they walked off. I thought this was hilarious!

Colors and a Theme

Okay, I admit. I have been a bad seed. I didn't realize that having a "theme" was so important! I have had friends ask me what my theme was, and my response has been, "well the room is green and yellow." "That's NOT a theme," I was told.

Truthfully, how does a person pick a theme? Do they start with colors, and then have a favorite character or something? There are so many themes to choose from, and many of them don't match the green and yellow of the room! Whenever I search for crib bedding, they separate it into girls and boys and the girls stuff is undoubtedly PINK, and the boys stuff is blue.

I liked this one frog night light so I registered for it, but that doesn't mean I have to have frogs on everything.....Sorry, help if you can...I am having issues with the idea of a "theme."

In addition, we are open to, and have been receiving many hand-me-downs from wonderful friends, co-workers, and family members. That means, that these things won't always go with the theme we could pick.

For the girls clothes, we like anything! Anything that is comfortable, appropriate for the weather and their age. Even though the girls are twins, they are fraternal so they don't have to be identically dressed. We have had people give us things that had similar colors, but not identical outfits. We have had people give us idential outfits too and that is great! Truthfully, it doesn't matter to us. Gently used, brand-new, matchy-matchy, or somewhat matching are all fine.

We just feel blessed to receive the gifts we have from our loved ones.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Funny thoughts

If you ever see a pregnant woman in a rush, PLEASE don't stop her! First of all, I am sure it has taken a lot of effort for her to hurry, and second of all there are a few good reasons why she might be hurrying:

1) she has to go to the bathroom....this is an almost guarantee.
2) she is already late to meet someone, someplace because it takes longer to do everything
3) many interesting fluids are coming out of her body, one possibility being that her water has broken

My true life example was example number 1. I was rushing into the grocery store to go to the bathroom before shopping when a voter registrar tried to stop me to ask me if I vote in this county or not. I politely told him that I do vote and I am already registered as I continued walking with my destination in sight.

I got there in time and everything was lovely. :-)

Hospital Tour

Charles and I took a tour of the Queen of the Valley hospital this weekend. We got to see the labor room, a recovery room, the baby room, and the NICU.

I am always keeping it in the back of my mind that the babies could end up in the NICU due to being twins and them possibly coming early. I am tyring to keep them in as long as I can, but sometimes these things are out of my control!

But I was very enheartened by the new maternity ward! Not only do they have the newest security features (alarm systems, bracelets for moms and dads), but the labor rooms are HUGE with a rocking chair, exercise ball, and extra chairs. The recovery room has a full bathroom with a shower, cribs for the babies, television, and a couch that folds out to a bed so that Charles can stay with me and the babies overnight.

The nursing staff seems very experienced and they hospital, very organized. YAY!

Renovations

I had initially sent this email to some of my family, but thought it would be fun for everyone to hear about our progress on converting our home into a "child" friendly place.

(The picture shows the office about 3 years ago, but you can see the built in desk Charles made for me,...we have saved the wood in the garage for future use...)

We finally got everything cleared out of the previous office/guest room and now things are starting to move into the new babies room! Charles spent a solid week and a half moving the built in desk out, adding the window and door trim (which we had added to all the other rooms), and painting the room while I was away on Christmas break. He did an amazing job painting the bottom of the room light green, then putting in a chair rail and painting the top part yellow. He also put in white, wooden blinds...we had had makeshift shades for the past six years. It looks so nice!

(See Charles' new paint job and new window trim? Picture on the below is our current progress. No baby furniture yet, but blinds are up, and the old desk cabinets will work as great end tables. Even the colors are already syncing!)

The biggest pain for me was moving the computer into the kitchen. We had a wine cabinet/counter that was kind of used as our “dump” place. Mail, keys, purses, phones, etc. got dumped there. So I cleared out the appliances that were being stored under the cabinet and put all the computer gear (printer, sound system, router, cables, cameras, etc.) under there and put the monitor and keyboard on top of the counter.

Charles still has to go under the house to connect the internet line (which is still in the babies room) to the computer. Right now it is strung across the floor, which isn’t very safe. Matt spent quite a bit of time over the break, helping us try to reconfigure this house arrangement because our internet connection will stay in the babies room; it can be moved to another outlet, but we’d have to pay a guy to come and do it and he said it would mess up the wiring in our house.

On another note, I had told Charles that if I made it to the third trimester with babies safely growing, that he could get a new television. I realize that I am the one who is pregnant, but Charles has been an awesome support, helping me with medications, doctors appointments, listening to me gripe (alot!), helping me sleep, and doing the entire room by himself, while I was off vacationing with friends and family.

We have had our 23 year old boob tube for all 16 years we have been together. We had it in this lovely black wooden cabinet that was in the living room, but frankly the cabinet was always a little big for our tiny 12 x 16 living room. So we moved the cabinet to the laundry room and are using it like a coat closet (our coats were in the babies closet before). Not having a coat closet has been driving me batty for years!

So we got Charles a lovely flat screen that mounts directly on the wall. No cabinet! It is amazing how much more room we have! When you only have 900 square feet you have to be creative with your space. I am seeing the potential of this new arrangement, now that the computer and television are both up and working again.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Explaining the Baby Registry

Okay, I realize it is a little cheesy to put a baby registry on our informational blog.

However, I am also a sucker for good deals, causing me to register at more than one place. Generally, Charles and I registered at Babies R Us for our large items and we registered at Target for the smaller items. But when I was comparison shopping online, I started finding items cheaper at Amazon.com so I started registering for them there. I just hated the idea that someone might pay $77.00 for a Baby Bjorn at Babies R Us, when they could get it at Amazon.com for $56.00.

This means that it might be more difficult for our friends and family to figure out what we have registered for and where. So, to try to make it easier I added direct links to our multiple registries on this blog, hoping for a one-stop shop of sorts.

Thanks for listening.

Medicine Update

Good news! After 6 months of injecting myself twice a day with blood thinners, the doctor has told me that I only have to continue for another week! After 26 weeks, I can stop the injections as it seems my immune system is no longer trying to interfere. I will still be taking baby aspirin, as is normal for most pregnant women.

After this, I really do have an appreciation for people with diabetes, or with other diseases treated with injections.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Welcome!

Hello wonderful family and friends...

As you all know, Charles and I have had some exciting news in the past few months. After a long time waiting, Charles and I are pregnant with two little girls!

There are so many of you that live far away that we want to keep in touch with regarding the progress of the pregnancy and the birth, so we thought the best way would be to enter the world of cyperspace and begin a blog. We hope to post entries and photos of the progress of the house, our changing lives, the pregnancy and the babies. If you want to share, please feel free also to post and comment to add to our blog.

We look forward to being in better communication with our loved ones.

Amy