From a good friend of Charles':
"Best advice for you guys and all new parents: You can do it. Take every challenge as it comes. If you try to anticipate every single detail, you'll just get overwhelmed. Just look around at all the complete idiots in the world who have raised kids; we can do it as well as they can, right?
Everything will be fine, just take it one thing at a time and don't worry about "everything" that goes into it. Pretty soon they are a year old, then five, then ten. Enjoy them while they're little. Ten years from now you won't remember if the house was a mess, the yard needed to be raked, or any of the other little stresses that we worry about. You will remember the precious time you spent with the babies, so spend your time focusing on that and forget about the dishes in the sink."
Well said....
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Very sage advice. Whoever gave you that advice is very smart.
Agreed!
My advice to you (the best that I received) is to stay in each and every moment with your babies. Even and especially in the difficult ones. Remember that each stage will pass, so, experience each one. Really, really look at and study your little girls. See them. Watch them. Let them teach you every moment of every day. Allow yourself to slow down... stop! Just be. Just be with your children. Try to see what they see. Take note of the simple things... a bird's song, the warmth of the sun on your head, the sound of a passing train. Let people help you. When they offer, say "Yes!" and let them. They want to be able to do something for you so let them! Forget about cleaning up and all that. Just be.
These kinds of comments are going to become my daily readings. I love them!
I have to agree. My friend who has 4 kids told me that she never understood when people said, "I bet you can't wait until they are xx age" and she would always think "WHY? Why would I want to miss what I have now? Or rush it away? I will NEVER get this age back."
She told me that when we were waiting for sweet Nadia and I always remember that.
Mike's aunt Joy told us right before we left to get her, "Don't alter your entire life for her. If you are loud, stay loud, if you travel, keep traveling, if you like certain foods, offer them up. Have your child join your life NOT dominate your life." Good stuff.
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